This Woman Pretends To Be Toddlers In Distress And It Is Helping People Better Understand How Kids Process Emotions

1 week ago 6

"You woke me up early and put me in the jeans that I hate, and the tag is itching my skin, and your breath smells disgusting..."

A woman named Menzie has recently caught the attention of millions of people for recreating toddlers' big emotions:

In video above, Menzie pretends to be a toddler while saying through tears, "You woke me up early and put me in the jeans that I hate, and the tag is itching my skin, and your breath smells fucking disgusting. Every time you come near me, I smell coffee and I hate it. My molars are coming in, and it hurts like a bitch! You bumped them when you were brushing my teeth against my will — that's torture. Everything is so out of my control, and I just wanted the blue cup. I know I can't always have the blue cup, but every time I have feelings you act like they're so not worth any of your time. If I was OK, then why am I crying? Why do I feel this way? Everything is not alright right now."

BuzzFeed spoke to Menzie who has one son — but the inspiration behind her videos didn't come from him. "I witnessed something I’ve seen countless times and always hated: an obviously injured, completely inconsolable child being told in a monotone voice, 'You’re OK, you’re OK' by an adult who barely bothered to look up from what they were doing," she said, adding that she wanted so badly to comfort the child, making them feel seen and heard.

Menzie decided she wanted to try to change this pattern and had her idea of making TikToks through the eyes of a distressed child. "My goal is to showcase how big feelings are a human experience, not just something children struggle with. I don’t want to guilt anyone or tell people what to do. I just want to provoke thought and encourage people to reconsider how they might respond to a person (of any age) experiencing an emotional event."

She's shared how young kids might feel every time their parent asks them to clean or pick up:

"I know you can't possibly understand, but, in my mind, I was in the middle of something important. I was building a bridge, and now I have to cater to you and your desire to have objects arranged in a certain way. How is that important right now when I'm in the middle of something? I don't really understand why it matters where things are. Why, if things are in a certain place, I'm in trouble and if they're somewhere else then you're happy with me? Make it make sense."

And shown the frustrations that may be going through kids' minds when they want to do things themselves:

"I wanna do it myself. You think that I don't know that you're faster and better at everything than me? You can do it better! You're a million fucking years old! I'm 2. I've been practicing all the time — every single day. I just wanna learn new skills so that you will be happy with me. You have no idea what it is like to be so goddamn uncoordinated. I'm growing so fast, like my dimensions are different every month..."

She's expressed thoughts toddlers might experience when it comes to getting ready and going places:

"Why are we always rushing around like idiots? I don't even know what time is. And I'm not very good at getting ready to go places, and you're apparently not good at getting ready to go places either because we're always struggling. I know you're frustrated — I can sense it, and it's making me frustrated. Is that all life is — just getting ready to go places and then going places? I didn't ask to be here. I didn't sign up for any of this, and now I'm just always having to get ready to go everywhere with you."

And she's given insight on how kids might process their feelings when they have to leave a place but don't want to:

"What I wish you would realize right now is how much of my time is not spent in this location that I love. This location brings me joy, and I don't get to be here that often. I'm always somewhere else — with you, doing something else. And now I'm somewhere that I love to be, and you're telling me to leave? I'm mad at you for that. I don't wanna leave."

Menzie hopes her videos help people gain a desire to utilize patience and empathy more freely. "I promise you’ll never regret that you were patient or had empathy for someone (especially your child). Also, give yourself more credit! Parenting is difficult. Growing up is difficult. We all just want to feel like we matter, and emotional validation is a great way to accomplish that."

You can see more of Menzie's "big emotions" videos on TikTok and follower her Instagram for more!

Read Entire Article